Kalea

I just came across this article.

I haven't felt restricted in what I wear to my job in all the companies I've worked for over the past 10 years. But I suspect that has to do with the fact that they weren't tech, 3 things did jump out at me though:

  1. The type of company: mine are all internet ones, founded during or after the dot com boom, in the Silicon Valley. Super casual and anything goes. An older company or a different industry would be more restrictive (Oracle, Cisco, biotech, etc).
  2. The role: No one cares what peons on the eng side of things wear. A director or marketer is different.
  3. My taste: you'll never catch me in booty shorts, crop tops, or anything that reveals unusual amounts of skin, which I suspect wouldn't fly anywhere in tech. Regular shorts, heels, shoulder cutouts, pencil skirts, tshirts are all ok.

Marketing/sales/client-facing meetings call for different apparel than what engineers typically wear, though at my company, if engineers will be meeting with clients, business casual (button up or polo with khakis) at least, is the norm.

The industry really does dictate, and what I mean is, one woman I spoke with recently told me that she wasn’t taken seriously at work until she started wearing stilettos.

Double standards?

Kalea

The secret to looking and smelling great on the beach is hard.

There are so many things to consider that a lot of people do not do.

The beach could be phrased as: "How the heck do people keep their hair looking nice when it's humid out? I have really thick, wavy hair that looks awesome 90% of the time (no brush, no heat, argan oil routine), but when it's humid, it just turns into a nest of damp frizz, and when I tie it back it just looks super greasy."

  1. What's a good conditioner for straight, thick hair?
  2. Where can I find a perfume with subtle pine notes?
  3. Do you use a foundation with sunscreen? Is it worth it?

Number 1

There's a shampoo/conditioner line called Malibu hard water wellness that's designed for this.

The real star is these little packets, it's a powder you use in the shower that removes built up minerals and you can feel the difference right away. I'd link you but I'm on mobile, I buy the 12-pack on Amazon for about $20, which isn't cheap but way cheaper than in my salon!

I tried the Malibu shampoo/conditioner as well once, it was fine (and sulfate free) but expensive and I think the packets do most of the work anyway.

You can also get a filter for your shower head!

That might help your skin too.

Number 2

I am pale ish with yellow undertones.

I wear 100% Pure brand foundation and blend of pine and rose and white peach together, and get soo many compliments.

I also have 2 more and find both hydrating, and pretty good staying power.

Number 3

This is't nessicary. And I find that it tends to not really blend that well with foundation, giving you a "dull" looking appearance, heaviness and dirty/sticky/waxy texture.

Kalea

More specifically for guitar. I haven't had much experience in music, but I have a guitar sitting around from my 17th birthday gaining quite a bit of dust.

I am not sure if I am going to try lessons, and if so I don't want to be taught tab and/or some songs, that seems likea a waste of time and money.

I want to learn music.

I have a book on theory, which I have never spent time to learn how to read actual scale, written music, not just garbage tabs.

Many people have told me music is a language, yet it can feel extremely foreign/intimidating to start out, and more so if you have yet to dip your feet in it.

I hope to pick it up as I go.

Kalea

Unfortunately a lot of the legal profession is stuck using archaic professional attire.

While a lot of law firms are now business casual, you even have to be careful about what nail polish you use. It's the worst working around judges though - a lot of judges won't hire women/let female attorneys argue if they are not wearing skirt suits with pantyhose!

I have read that people have been told that long hair is extremely unprofessional. Even if you wear the hair up, some judges won't allow ponytails in their courtroom.

Buns are seen as more professional and are the preferred hairstyle. Wearing hair down, if long, is just simply not allowed.

I think if you really love your hair long there are so many beautiful ways to wear your hair up that will look professional and put together. It will take longer to get ready in the morning, but I think it is definitely manageable.

The way I see it is that this trend towards masculinizing women in the workplace is one that should die a long-deserved death.

If you're looking for something that you can do with your long hair to make you taken more seriously, then start with braided (think French braids) tails, buns with flair, and learn to do a French Twist - which is insanely easy and which looks incredibly managerial.

Kalea

I love short hair, and so the next step was to really shorten it up.

I have my sides shaved, although I usually have the rest of my hair flipped for work so no one can tell, my boss doesn't seem to mind as long as I do my work.

The thing about it that it really brings styles out that didn't work for me before, clothes that show my neckline and/or collarbones. I love how I feel with this cut, and plan on keeping it until at least july for my best friend's wedding.

Our bridesmaid dresses are going to be floral, and I can't wait to see how my hair will toughen it up a bit!

If you want to try you could always start out with a more subtle cut, so if you absolutely hate it, you can flip your hair over and it won't show. I think short hair is so flattering on women, especially a super short pixie or shaved. I wanted this cut for ages before I finally got the balls to do it, and I've had plenty of alternative styles before. It took a few days to get used to but I'm really happy I did it.

As a petite redhead, I stick to a mostly neutral palette and focus on fit, though I love seeing other redheads rocking just the right shade of purple, green, or squash yellow. I've noticed that muted colors tend to look better, as red hair tends to be a muted red and not that cartoony bright red. Complement it, don't overpower it!

Unfortunately my hair isn't coupled with curls and freckles. I'm just limited to the amount of "edgy" clothing I can wear. I love blacks, nudes, and hard lines, but the reality is I look more like Thora Birch in Hocus Pocus than an adult professional when I wear what I'm drawn to.

I do what I can, though.

Kalea

Most of life's chores have an obvious optimal time to do them.

Getting the mail on my way in means I don't have to put on shoes again. Rinsing/soaking the dishes right after dinner saves you scrubbing later on. Watering the garden happens in the evening when the sun won't soak it all up. Oil changes happen at 7,000 miles, and I don't give it a single thought until my odometer hits at least 6,500.

Most of us create strong routines to hit these chores at just the right time so we can move on to making even stronger routines to save even more time.

I treat cleaning like a series of micro tasks that rely heavily on ingrained habits.

I never leave a space without spending 30 seconds picking up behind myself. Pillows get picked up off the floor, dishes go to the sink, remote placed in the same spot every time etc...

Everything in my house has a specific home that is a logical location depending on how I use an item. It also helps that my house is pretty decluttered and I don't own massive amounts of stuff. I don't spend crazy amounts on storage solutions, but I do believe in storage solutions that suit the available space.

When I bring items into my house I put them away right away. Even mail gets sorted, recycled or shredded.

I wipe my bathroom down daily, right before I hop in the shower, takes me three minutes. Once a week I do a big bathroom scrub. The shower is cleaned while I am in the shower. (I use natural cleaning products)

I quick vacuum my house a few times a week, a task that takes maybe twenty minutes while I am waiting for dinner to cook. Once a week I pick a room and do a deep vacuum, but that isn't that time consuming - 30 minutes max.

Laundry I fold while watching tv, and I put it away right before I go to bed while I am listening to some music unwinding.

I dust while listening to music or the tv once a week. Again a fast task because I clean up my surfaces constantly as a habit.

Dishes washed once a day while cooking dinner and right after eating dinner. I put them in a drying rack where they air dry and get put away in the morning while the kettle boils.

Little jobs like cleaning mirrors, watering plants, cleaning the litter box, I do them as little micro jobs on a daily basis that I fit between the things I enjoy doing. So if I am reading a book, when I get up for a bathroom break or to grab a glass of water, I will also do a one minute task like filling my bird feeder. Watching Netflix? At the end of a show, take your recycling out.

I truly believe that good repetitive habits and being organized actually eliminates the need to clean constantly and saves so much time. Even organizing cleaning supplies in logical places and having duplicates of items can quicken the process. Also breaking up your fun time to perform quick tasks makes you feel like you have accomplished something even if you are having a couch night. So the optimal time to me is all the time but in tiny little micro moments.

You know when your ceiling fan is dirty so make a point of cleaning it as one of your micro tasks as soon as it is dirty.