Kalea

My curls weren't well cared for as a kid, so I resented my waves until now. I guess it's just best to teach care an confidence early on.

When you have a little girl with wavy/curly hair teach her how to care for it properly.

A lot of curly girl self hate just comes from frustration and confusion with our hair. I was never taught basic things about caring for my hair and I know I'm not alone. My mother just handed me a straightening iron. If only I had known much earlier on about going through it with conditioner and a wide toothed comb in the shower, using a diffuser head on the hair dryer, not using a hairbrush on it, etc.

Other tips...It's easy for curly hair to develop mats if it's not tended to well. Find her a hairstylist (when she's older obviously) who knows curly hair and can recommend good products, styles, and techniques. When blow drying curly hair straight, for example, you'll need a straightening balm/cream such as Goldwell or Kiehl's to prevent it from becoming bushy. These simple things make a world of difference.

As someone with very thick, fast growing, wavy-curly hair, a pixie cut or super short was a godsend for me. So that's always an option, if the curls are too frustrating for her to handle.

Kalea

I love short hair, and so the next step was to really shorten it up.

I have my sides shaved, although I usually have the rest of my hair flipped for work so no one can tell, my boss doesn't seem to mind as long as I do my work.

The thing about it that it really brings styles out that didn't work for me before, clothes that show my neckline and/or collarbones. I love how I feel with this cut, and plan on keeping it until at least july for my best friend's wedding.

Our bridesmaid dresses are going to be floral, and I can't wait to see how my hair will toughen it up a bit!

If you want to try you could always start out with a more subtle cut, so if you absolutely hate it, you can flip your hair over and it won't show. I think short hair is so flattering on women, especially a super short pixie or shaved. I wanted this cut for ages before I finally got the balls to do it, and I've had plenty of alternative styles before. It took a few days to get used to but I'm really happy I did it.

As a petite redhead, I stick to a mostly neutral palette and focus on fit, though I love seeing other redheads rocking just the right shade of purple, green, or squash yellow. I've noticed that muted colors tend to look better, as red hair tends to be a muted red and not that cartoony bright red. Complement it, don't overpower it!

Unfortunately my hair isn't coupled with curls and freckles. I'm just limited to the amount of "edgy" clothing I can wear. I love blacks, nudes, and hard lines, but the reality is I look more like Thora Birch in Hocus Pocus than an adult professional when I wear what I'm drawn to.

I do what I can, though.

Kalea

What do you think about the updo? I love it. And I love loose curls. So these are two go to suggestions when it comes to getting married.

Updo down the aisle, loose curls when you party it up later! Then you can put something shiny or a big flashy flower in it to suit a more glamorous yet relaxed theme.

Remember, when you are walking down the aisle and then standing there exchanging vows your face will be more visible with the updo. This is an important detail in pictures, especially since you don't want to coneal your face.

If there is one thing that is important about wedding pictures it is that you want to be seen on them.

My favorite wedding cheat is to have the couple and the officiant switch places so the officiant's back faces the guests during the exchange of vows and the couple faces out for the ceremony. Win-win depending on the layout of the venue.

Some suggestions for a product list:

FACE

  • Hourglass Veil Mineral Primer
  • Studio Fix Fluid Revlon Colorstay
  • Maybelline Instant Age Rewind Dark Circle Eraser (I actually used this as a highlighter one top of my cheekbones, down my nose, and above my lip)
  • Hourglass Illume Creme-To-Powder Bronzer Duo

EYES

  • From the Urban Decay Shadow Box Palette - "Scratch" along the inner edge lid, "Shag" in the middle of the lid, and "Underground" on the outer edge of the lid.
  • From the Lorac Pro Palette - "Taupe" in the crease and "Sable" as a liner
  • I went over the shadow liner with L'Oreal Voluminous Smoldering Eyeliner in black for some extra definition
  • Eyelashes are Andrea strip lashes in #53

LIPS

  • Hourglass Femme Nude Lip Stylo - Nude No 4
  • MyGlam LipGloss in #1 (it's basically a sheer pink color to give the lips a little extra shine)